Life After Loss of a Love One
You and I share a story, the story of how we received our broken heart after the death of a loved one.
But Crazy Good Grief isn’t just about my story – It’s about your story too.
The tragedy that got you here matters… But what matters most is the story you are unfolding even as you read this….
The story you have yet to write, about how you fought hard to make it through 100% of the hard days and searched in the smallest spaces of your broken heart wondering how you will go on…. And yet you do, because here you are sharing this moment with me.
Your grief and healing story will continue to be written and revised because that’s how it is to lose a piece of your heart.
Come with me and step out of the shadow of your loss and into the sunlight that honors the best of your loved one and share it with the world.
If you are in this unique club having lost a child or other loved one and wonder if your life will ever feel joy again – Welcome!
If you feel a need to deeply honor your loss by getting curious about your grief and find healing -Welcome!
If you want to know what it feels like to be happy & vibrant again – Welcome!
I believe we can have a healthy, happy, vibrant life after loss. It starts with the courage to connect to a community of people who understand the deep searing cut of losing a cherished loved one.
I believe we need to live in the sunshine of our loved one’s life, not hide in the shadow of their death.
GRATITUDE, LETTING-GO, LOVE, HUMOR, ADVENTURE and big heaping dose of WELLNESS IN HEART & SOUL will begin to shift your ‘new normal’ into a better place. To get there we have to treat our mind, body & soul as a sacred vehicle of change.
Tending to our soul grows gratitude and gratitude is powerful enough to heal even the deepest wound.
YOU ARE MORE THAN YOUR GRIEF!
I know the heartbreak of losing a child.
On October 9th, 2010 I lost my oldest son. He passed away while home on leave from the Army. On that day my heart was shattered into so many pieces it would be months before I could even consider what I would do with all those pieces. Then I got a letter from another Mom who had also lost her oldest son. She suggested the most absurd, crazy, unheard of idea… such crazy good idea in fact I figured it might just work!
“Use all those broken pieces of your heart and build expansion joints.”
She was actually suggesting that I could use this broken heart of mine and build something bigger! That I could fill in the spaces with experiences that would be meaningful and amazing and that it would create a bigger more expansive heart than previously existed. I sat on the front steps of my house, letter in hand and for the first time in months felt a small piece of my heart warmly stitch itself back together.
The truth is, my heart will always be scarred, (and so will yours) there was no control of that. But I do have control over how I tend to that scar. I knew I did not want to use Super Glue to put those pieces back together…. I didn’t want a hardened heavy heart to carry the rest of my life. It’s hard enough to live as a Mother whose lost a child, I don’t have to manifest anger, hate, resentment and other negative emotions.
This doesn’t mean I don’t hurt, grieve, cry, have anger and heart ache – just like you. It means that how I live the rest of my life is the only way the rest of the world will continue to remember Brandon and how I will honor my son’s life. So this is CRAZY GOOD GRIEF!
Women Who Thrive Here…
Desire to be Grounded… Live in the Moment… Are Open to New Ideas… Are curious about their grief… Are Impressive-but not Intimidating… Humble & Generous… and…
WANT TO BE REAL AND HEAL!
Please comment and contribute to things going on here – This is YOUR community and YOUR involvement that begins to write the story of how you got through this. This will be your history of growing these heartfelt expansion joints into ourselves and our communities.
Paula has a Masters Degree in Exercise Physiology and currently teaches in the Human Performance & Sport Department at Metro State University in Denver. She is a Certified Wellness Coach and 200 hour RYT Yoga Instructor. She also teaches Yoga for Grief workshops at conferences and other events.
Paula is a sought after inspirational speaker on the topic of personal growth, resilience and grief as well as many health & wellness topics.
She has presented at the national level for the American College of Sports Medicine, The Compassionate Friends National Conference and Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep. Her authentic, humble and humorous style endear her to all types of audiences.
An avid runner Paula qualified for and ran the Boston Marathon in 2007. She also enjoys mountain biking, skiing, camping and good craft beer. Paula also loves time with her other 3 sons as they encourage her to push the edge of adventure. Never a dull moment when you’re the mother of boys!